Shirley Helene Healing

  • Born: September 18, 1945
  • Died: July 16, 2018
  • Location: Charleston, South Carolina

J. Henry Stuhr West Ashley Chapel

3360 Glenn McConnell Parkway
Charleston, SC 29414

Tel. (843) 763.7664

Tribute & Message From The Family

Message From The Family

Thank you for your support during this difficult time. Please enhance this tribute to Shirley by adding your memories and photos.

Shirley Helene Berge Healing, 72, of Charleston, South Carolina, wife of David H. Healing entered into eternal rest Monday, July 16, 2018. Her Funeral Service will be held Saturday, July 21, 2018 in Old St. Andrews Parish Church, 2604 Ashley River Road, at 11:00 a.m. Arrangements by J. HENRY STUHR INC., WEST ASHLEY CHAPEL.

Shirley was born September 18, 1945 in Bridgeport, Connecticut, daughter of the late Richard Berge and Frances Galant Berge. She was a retired travel agent. Shirley was a life member of Lordship Community Church in Stratford, CT, a member of Old St. Andrews Parish Church and choir member.

She is survived by her husband, David H. Healing of Charleston, SC; two daughters, Karin Hope (Michael) of Milford, CT, Mary Scruggs (Mason) of Summerville, SC; son, Richard Healing (Christine) of Summerville, SC; sister, Patricia McCathron of Jupiter, FL; six grandchildren, Maggie Hope, Aidan Hope, Erin Healing, Jack Healing, Mason Scruggs, Jr., and Emma Scruggs.

In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to Old St. Andrews Parish Church, 2604 Ashley River Road, Charleston, SC, 29414.


Condolence & Memory Journal

Our deepest condolences to Shirley's husband Dave and all the family.

Posted by Cathy & Bob Staurovsky - Stratford, CT - Friend   October 29, 2018

Bob and I have known Shirley and Dave for most of our lives and have considered them to be our best friends all that time. We were fortunate to have shared the pleasure of many vacations and cruises both near and far with them, and a wonderful road trip out west, and Friday night dinners together after a busy work week for years. She always looked at the bright side of everything which made being with her such a joy. Dave and their children and grandchildren were everything to her, and the new found love of her church in West Ashley. I remember walking around the grounds and inside the church with them on our last visit to Charlston, and how excited she was to show us everything.

She will be truly missed, and deep condolences to her children, grandchildren and sister Pattie. Gs

Posted by Bob and Barbara Henderson - Shelton, CT - Family Friend   July 23, 2018

Dear Healing Family,
We go back a long way. Brought together by LCC but separated by distance and changes in life. I will remember Shirley with great fondness and many memories.
You have my deepest sympathy. Keeping you all in prayer for peace and comfort. Love to all.

Posted by Barbara Branscombe - East Windsor, CT - Friend   July 21, 2018

I hope heaven is ready for Shirley
She was a person of faith and make no mistake
She left her mark here and will always be remembered for her spirit and caring of other people
You leave a wonderful family they are your legacy
Peace be with you

Posted by Robert Branscombe - Myrtle Beach, SC - Friend   July 20, 2018

Our condolences on the passing of Shirley. W
She is remembered as a generous and loving friend. We share some great memories of boating in Long Island Sound. Our prayers are with you.

Posted by Ted & Elspeth McCormack - Ormond Beach, FL - Friend   July 20, 2018


Our condolences to the family from the members and friends of Lordship Community Church. We express our gratitude to Shirley, a Life Deacon, for her years of service to LCC. Our thoughts and prayers are with the family. Shirley loved her family and will be missed.

Posted by Lordship Community Church - Stratford, CT   July 19, 2018

So sorry for your loss

Posted by Linda Jacovino - Stratford, CT - Friend   July 18, 2018

My thoughts are with my dear friends from Lordship Community Church. For 34 years we laughed together, sang together, worked together and sometimes mourned together. Shirley and family, you will forever have a place in my heart. God bless you all!

Posted by Stephen Pavlich - San Diego, CA   July 18, 2018

Please accept my deepest condolences on the passing of your Mom, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Posted by Cheryl O'Connor - CT - friend   July 18, 2018

My deepest condolence to your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Posted by Carla Jean Simoncini - Milford, CT - Friend   July 18, 2018

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Posted by Susan Somohano - Milford, CT - Friend   July 18, 2018

Karin and family, I am so very sorry to hear about your Mom's passing. I will always remember how patient she was with me when I needed to make travel arrangements for work. I hope you can find some comfort in the memories you have.

Jean Niro

Posted by Jean Niro - Hamden, CT - Friend   July 18, 2018

Pat and Jeff and Shirley's family, my heartfelt sympathy and prayers are with you all. Love Joanie and Dan

Posted by Joan Buffa - Monroe, CT - Family Friend   July 18, 2018

You have been in my life forever. We have had highs and lows, but always remained sisters. You will be missed. Hope that polka party you're at is going strong. Send my love to everyone. Love you!

Posted by Patricia McCathron - Sister   July 18, 2018

My heartfelt condolences go out to the Healing family at this difficult time my you find peace. Those we love don't go away, they walk beside us everyday.

Posted by Joan Abed Stefan - Stratford, CT - Friend   July 18, 2018

Nancy and I are sad to hear of Shirley's passing. She was so cheerful and elegant. Our prayers are with the entire family.

Posted by Don Wetmore - Stratford, CT - Friend   July 18, 2018

I am so sorry for your loss! My thoughts & prayers are with you!

Posted by Amy Assennato - Milford, CT - Friend   July 17, 2018


I am so sorry to learn of Shirley's passing. She was a nice person and a pleasure to communicate with at LCC. My thoughts and prayers are with the family. I am so sorry for your loss.

Posted by Sandra Iannotti - Stratford, CT   July 17, 2018

I will always remember you, thank you for your kindness.

Posted by fundador mendez - stratford, CT - Family   July 17, 2018

The words, "I'm sorry for your loss" cannot truly express the feeling of loss. We all go back to childhood raising our children together and truly enjoying living life as dear close friends.

To David and family - please take solace in knowing that Shirley is in a much better place , free of pain and waiting for all of us to be together again.

In deepest friendship and sympathy,
Sheila and Bud Willis
St. Petersburg, FL 33710

Posted by Donald "Bud" and Sheila Willis - Saint Petersburg, FL - Family Friend   July 17, 2018

I am sorry to hear about your loss. I know Shirley because we used to commute together from Stratford on the train. She was alwAys good company and a pleasure to talk to. I am sorry for your loss.

Posted by Beth Bender - Acquaintance   July 17, 2018

Family Album

Pat & Shirley May 29 2012

Life Stories

Hello & good morning. I am Pat McCathron, Shirley’s younger, good looking better half.
Shirley & I started out in the same place, mom & dad. Shirley was named after Shirley Temple, my mom’s favorite actress, and he sister Helen.
When I was old enough, we shared a bed together in the same room until she was a tween. Then it was “MOMMM!!! So she got us separate beds, same room.
We played outside in the sun under the sprinklers in the summer. Many summers were spent at Short Beach Stratford, Pleasure beach Bridgeport with all the horseshoe crabs or Sandy Beach on Lake Quassipogue. Always the ongoing competition to get the raft in the middle of the lake 1st
In the winter, There were snow forts, snow ball fights, sledding down Cambridge St then come in for tomato soup & grilled cheese sandwiches.
We were very close to our families. Gram, dad’s mother, her sister & brother lived down the street with dad’s sister & her family. Most of moms family was in Altoona PA but there was always the annual trip to see babcia & tons of pierogi. Aunt Mary lived in Bpt & was Shirley’s godmother.
We went to St Michaels School Bpt for 9 yrs each on that unending bus ride to/from Bpt.
That is when things changed for her. At Her 1st high school, she met her lifelong friend, Ellen, who became family when she married our cousin Joe. They remained friends until the present.
When she transferred to Stratford HS, she then met her next lifelong friend, Barbara who introduced Shirley to the ultimate love of her life, Dave. Barb started dating Dave’s childhood friend, Bob. Barb & Bob got married. So did she & Dave. They all remain friends to this day including Joe & Ellen.
Dave introduced Shirley to the love of the water & boating. Shirley introduced Dave to the polka. I’m still not sure if it really is a polka, but they had fun doing it. Both worked and played like most couples as they raised the 3 children, Encouraging the kids to enjoy life. They spend the better part of their 55+ yr lives on the boat with family & friends, traveling especially cruises later in life before retiring to Charleston.
Shirley wasn’t a great cook, but loved to bake. Every Christmas there were tons of cookies, especially her favorite, Sickerdoodles. Her 1st attempt to impress her new husband at Christmas was to make a fruitcake for him. She got all the ingredients, flour, candied fruits, etc and put in the oven to bake. After 3 hrs, she couldn’t figure out why the toothpick still coming out sticky. Instead of baking it at 350, she had turned on the broiler.
Our 2 aunts, Mary & Ronnie were tagged “the sisty uglers” by Dave, but the nickname was quickly transferred to she & I later. That name I am now passing on to the next generation, Karin & Mary, after seeing a recent picture of those 2 at the cousins family party this past weekend.
As we get older we need our family & friends more than ever. I thank all of you here for sharing in her life’s enjoyment & sorrows. I will miss my sister very much.