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COL Michael Clinton Wilmer (US Army, Ret.)

COL Michael Clinton Wilmer (US Army, Ret.)
  • October 1, 1960 - October 17, 2020
  • Charleston, South Carolina
  • In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to:
  • Fisher House Foundation
    12300 Twinbrook Parkway, Suite 410
    Rockville, MD 20852

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“My God Bless you Michael in Heaven,my condolence to the Wilmer Family. ”
1 of 23 | Posted by: Timothy Siwek - Norwich, NY

“Fran and Brian,I'm in absolute shock to hear Mike had passed away last month. It's crushing to hear, I just can't imagine this incredible man being...Read More »
2 of 23 | Posted by: Norman Allen - Fayetteville, NC

“Dear Fran and Family, I am so sorry for your lose, Michael was part of my life for many years growing up as our families were close. The last time I...Read More »
3 of 23 | Posted by: Bobby Royere - Bayville, NY

“To the Wilmer Family, I had the privilege of working with Mike during my military and Booz Allen career. He was a great colleague and friend. He had...Read More »
4 of 23 | Posted by: Frank Munoz - Virginia Beach, VA

“Fran - so sorry for your profound loss. We met a few times when you visited West Point, and it was clear to see you were the center of Mike's world....Read More »
5 of 23 | Posted by: Carolyn Grey - Augusta, GA

“So sorry to hear this news. May his memory be for a blessing! ”
6 of 23 | Posted by: Gideon Sinasohn - Johns Creek, GA

“Fran and Brian, I was so sorry to hear about Mike today from Brenda Cotter. May God richly bless you with His peace and comfort. Many hugs coming to...Read More »
7 of 23 | Posted by: Tish Roberts - Bonaire, GA

“So Sorry to hear of Mike's passing. I have lots of great memories of him from high school. May he Rest In Peace. ”
8 of 23 | Posted by: Carla Funes Kavanaugh - CA

“Fran - my sincerest condoleces to you and your family on Mike's passing. I wish we would have had spent more time together over years. Mike was a...Read More »
9 of 23 | Posted by: Bob Henry - Chantilly, VA

“I'm so sad to learn of the passing of Michael. He was my eldest cousin and the superstar of the family! I will cherish the memories of the many...Read More »
10 of 23 | Posted by: Laura Knipe - Oceanside, NY

“Dear Fran,Andrea and I send you our best wishes. We have a ton of memories of Mike and you and that whole crew of people from Uniondale.. I...Read More »
11 of 23 | Posted by: Niels Nielsen - Dingmans Ferry, PA

“So sorry to hear about Michael's passing. I was sorry not to see him again at our class reunion two years ago. So many Sunday School and Youth Group...Read More »
12 of 23 | Posted by: Georgia Hall - Hopkinton, MA

“Fran and family It is with great sadness that I just learned of Mike's passing. Mike and I were classmates, so of course Brothers, and friends. We...Read More »
13 of 23 | Posted by: Paul Calbos - Oklahoma City, OK

“I met Mike 12 years ago, as colleagues at Booz Allen Hamilton. We spent thousands of hours together working on addressing some our Nation's toughest...Read More »
14 of 23 | Posted by: Oscar De Soto - Arlington, VA

“Mike was a boisterous and lively soul, and the time I spent with him was always memorable. It was sad to hear about his far too early death, and my...Read More »
15 of 23 | Posted by: Justin Mellette - Jamaica Plain, MA

“Dear Fran & family, Sponsoring Mike was one of our joys while stationed at WP. He was an outstanding Army officer and person. We know he will be...Read More »
16 of 23 | Posted by: Joe & Patricia Girlando - WA

“Oh Fran, we just heard from Don Sando about Mike. We are so, so sorry. Huge hugs to you and Brian and it looks like a daughter-in-law and a grandbaby...Read More »
17 of 23 | Posted by: Brenda and Craig Cotter - NY

“Essayons to my USMA 1982 classmate, Mike Wilmer. Thank you for your service to our nation and prayers to your family as they celebrate your life. ”
18 of 23 | Posted by: Richard Hook - Oxnard, CA

“Dear Wilmer Family -I was deeply saddened to hear today that Mike recently passed away. He and I were classmates at West Point and both player...Read More »
19 of 23 | Posted by: Richard Kubu - West Point, NY

“Dear Fran and family- my deepest sympathy for Mike's passing. I will miss him and fondly remember his passion for service, his keen intellect and...Read More »
20 of 23 | Posted by: Don Sando - Columbus, GA

“Dear Wilmer Family, I'm so saddened to hear of Mike's all-to-early passing. He had a brilliant mind, but more importantly, he was an all around...Read More »
21 of 23 | Posted by: Ryan Field - Los Angeles, CA

“Dear Wilmer family - I was so saddened to hear of Mike's passing. Although our association was brief, Mike impressed me as a passionate, devoted...Read More »
22 of 23 | Posted by: Jeff Douglass - Seattle, WA

“I'm sorry for your loss. Mike was a great leader, brilliant analyst and wonderful boss. ”
23 of 23 | Posted by: Jeffrey Kulp - Stafford, VA

COL Michael Clinton Wilmer (US Army, Ret.), 60, of Charleston, South Carolina, husband of Fran Wilmer entered into eternal rest Saturday, October 17, 2020. A private memorial service to celebrate his life will be held in the J. Henry Stuhr, Inc. Mount Pleasant Chapel.

Michael Wilmer was born October 1, 1960 in Freeport, New York, son of the late Edward Wilmer and Irene Cole. He was a 1982 graduate of The United States Military Academy, and served in the United States Army for over 26 years as a combat engineer and systems analyst. COL Wilmer earned two Masters degrees, one from the Air Force Institute of Technology in Operations Research in 1991 and another from the US Army War College in Strategic Studies in 2004. He served in leadership and staff positions at every level of the military from platoon to the Joint Staff.

Upon retiring from the Army, Michael spent nearly six years with consulting firm Booz Allen Hamilton in Washington, DC. Following this, he spent two years as the Chief Operating Officer of a small risk management firm in New York City. Four years ago, Michael and Fran settled in Charleston, SC where he worked as an independent consultant on projects across the globe.

Michael's favorite activity was spending quality time with family and friends, sharing stories over a good meal with well-crafted cocktails. As he would often say: it's all about the stories. He was also an avid sports fan, most notably as a tortured devotee of the New York Mets and Jets. Michael thoroughly enjoyed music, fishing, playing games, and traveling with his wife Fran.

He is survived by his wife, Fran Wilmer of Charleston, SC; son, Brian Wilmer and daughter-in-law Michelle Doolittle of Vacaville, CA; and his granddaughter, Rosemary Joy Wilmer.

In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to Fisher House Foundation. Please visit