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Thomas Michael DiLorenzo

Thomas Michael DiLorenzo
  • September 12, 1956 - July 17, 2020
  • Charleston, South Carolina

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“It is December 17, 2020 and I have been going through my old files and came across a personal letter from Dr. DiLorenzo congratulating me on ...Read More »
1 of 54 | Posted by: Amanda (Sanguinet) Lally - CA

“I am very sorry to hear about Tom's passing. He was a really good person that always left me with a good feeling . Each time I interacted with him at...Read More »
2 of 54 | Posted by: Philip Perkins - Acquaintance

“Suzanne, Like everyone else who knows you and Tom, I was so saddened to learn of this terrible news. Please know that many, many people are...Read More »
3 of 54 | Posted by: John Van Sant - Birmingham, AL

“Suzanne,You are close to my thoughts during this time of mourning. I am very sorry for your loss and the pain you are feeling. I hope you and your...Read More »
4 of 54 | Posted by: Nicky Bennett - Birmingham, AL

“Dear Suzanne: My heart goes out to you and the entire family! One can only imagine the weight of the loss, but I know that God will give you all...Read More »
5 of 54 | Posted by: Philip Musa - Coworker

“Dear Suzanne: My heart goes out to you and all other family members, friends, and colleagues! One can only imagine how painful this loss is to you,...Read More »
6 of 54 | Posted by: Philip Musa - Coworker

“He did a lot of good work in his life. He will be missed. ”
7 of 54 | Posted by: Shannon Starr - Coworker

“Dear Suzanne, I was profoundly shocked upon learning such a tragic loss of your partner Dr. Tom Di Lorenzo, only weeks after you and Dr. Di Lorenzo...Read More »
8 of 54 | Posted by: Yuliang Zheng - Friend

“Susanne, I can never find the right words at times like this, but please know you are in our thoughts and in our hearts. Tom earned my respect and...Read More »
9 of 54 | Posted by: Betty Asher - Destin, FL

“Dear Suzanne, My heart goes out to you and your loved one on hearing about Tom's tragic passing. I will always remember you as my sweet, kind and...Read More »
10 of 54 | Posted by: Marie Perrone - Wilmington, DE

“Dear Suzanne and Families. It is impossible for me to express the deep sadness I feel for you, your families and for Tom, and the utter shock I felt...Read More »
11 of 54 | Posted by: Grant McGimpsey - Coworker

“Suzanne, I am so sorry to hear about this tragic event. My thoughts are you and your family. ”
12 of 54 | Posted by: Ana Teixeira - Charleston, SC

“Suzanne,We were all shocked to learn of Tom's death last week. our thoughts and prayers are with you as you struggle through this time. I have been...Read More »
13 of 54 | Posted by: Mike WYSS - Vestavia Hills, AL

“Our deepest condolences to the family. Tom and I went to school together at Jeannette and at University of Pittsburgh. He was a good friend and best...Read More »
14 of 54 | Posted by: Keith Yanos - North Huntingdon, PA

“Our deepest condolences to the family. Our prayers are with you all at this time. Paulette DiLorenzoDavid and Melissa SistiJoe and Anna Sisti...Read More »
15 of 54 | Posted by: Sherry Smith - Friend

“Our deepest condolences to the family. Our prayers are with you all at this time. Paulette DiLorenzoDavid and Melissa SistiJoe and Anna Sisti...Read More »
16 of 54 | Posted by: Sherry Smith - Friend

“It is with much sadness and a heavy heart that I send my condolences. I remember Tom and his brothers as youngsters, and of course his dear parents....Read More »
17 of 54 | Posted by: Mary Jo Balya Zappone - Austin, TX

“Late in my career at the University of Missouri I had the good fortune to serve as associate Chair with Tom. Although nearly 20 years younger than...Read More »
18 of 54 | Posted by: Dennis Wright - Columbia, MO

“Suzanne,Please accept my deepest, heartfelt condolences for your loss. As one of the countless people whose life was transformed by Tom, I share...Read More »
19 of 54 | Posted by: Mark Stanton - Wilmington, DE

“Dear Suzanne and Family Members,I was a fellow Department Chair with Tom at the University of Missouri and worked closely with him from the...Read More »
20 of 54 | Posted by: Brady Deaton Deaton - Columbia, MO

“Tom was and will always be a wonderful colleague that ended up becoming a dear friend. Tom was a joy to work with. He always let people speak their...Read More »
21 of 54 | Posted by: Karla Mongeon-Stewart - ND

“I am very sorry for the most tragic loss of your partner Tom. When your Chaired the UD Art Department, I remember the joy I observed you communicate...Read More »
22 of 54 | Posted by: Vera E Kaminski - West Grove, PA

“Suzanne: continued prayers and concern for you and your entire family. ”
23 of 54 | Posted by: Tim Johnson - Charleston, SC

“A great friend in high school. We shared classes and clubs and tried to become better public speakers at ToastMasters Youth Group sponsored by his...Read More »
24 of 54 | Posted by: Grant Koher - Chapel Hill, NC

“So sorry for your terrible loss, our thoughts and prayers are with the family. ”
25 of 54 | Posted by: Adam and Christi Baughman - PA

“Dear Suzanne, I am so sorry! I am thinking about you and praying for you and your family every day. Tom was a wonderful leader who supported our...Read More »
26 of 54 | Posted by: Barry Joyce - Newark, DE

“As an event planner at the University of Delaware it was my job to check in with a client prior to the start of their meeting. I recall checking in...Read More »
27 of 54 | Posted by: Darlene Cartwright - Newark, DE

“Dear Suzanne, Deepest condolences to you & your family. So many of us in Charleston are so very sorry that your move to our city resulted in such a...Read More »
28 of 54 | Posted by: Jan Maria Pittman - Neighbor

“Sending prayers for Tom’s family and friends. ”
29 of 54 | Posted by: Linda Tanyer Haluck - Classmate

“Dear Suzanne and Family:May Tom's memory be a blessing to all, and may you feel the comfort and warmth of the love of those across the country who...Read More »
30 of 54 | Posted by: J. Michael Durnil - Indianapolis, IN

“I have worked in the public sector for 26 years, almost exclusively in education. Tom is easily one of the top executives that I have ever had the...Read More »
31 of 54 | Posted by: Mike Pieper - Grand Forks, ND

“Your tragedy was felt by the entire community. For my wife and I, retirees affiliated with CofC through seniors' courses, attendance at myriad...Read More »
32 of 54 | Posted by: Paul & Sherry Keefer - Charleston, SC

“My sympathies to Tom's family.I was shocked and saddened by Tom's sudden, tragic and senseless death. I met him within the first month of his...Read More »
33 of 54 | Posted by: Ric Ferraro Ferraro - Grand Forks, ND

“Tom was the all time best boss I've ever had, and I've had several I liked. He brought me to Grand Forks, and was always, invariably supportive,...Read More »
34 of 54 | Posted by: Stephanie Walker - Grand Forks, ND

“Dr. Thomas (Tom) DiLorenzo's death is hard to believe and impossible to stomach. To say he loved his family does not fully capture the way he would...Read More »
35 of 54 | Posted by: Shannon R. Mikula Mikula - ND

“Dear DiLorenzo family:Although we have not personally met as I'm originally from Minnesota and lived for several years on King Street in Charleston I...Read More »
36 of 54 | Posted by: Mary Gallagher - Walterboro, SC

“Suzanne, Tom was a wonderful colleague and friend. I appreciated so much being able to be involved in bringing the two of you to UAB. My relationship...Read More »
37 of 54 | Posted by: Harold Jones - San Diego, CA

“Thomas Michael DiLorenzo's career was in higher education. Mine was in Pre-K through 12. But our experiences were similar in many ways, and our...Read More »
38 of 54 | Posted by: Mr and Mrs Gardiner Dodd - SC

“Dear Dr. Austin - You are in my constant thoughts. I am so very sorry for your loss for you and your families. Tom was a very special person and I am...Read More »
39 of 54 | Posted by: Kay Kirk - Helena, AL - Coworker

“My prayers are with you and your family and friends during this time of bereavement. I did not know your husband but from reading his obituary, what...Read More »
40 of 54 | Posted by: Courtney Daniels - Summerville, SC

“Tom came into my life with two other brothers when my mother married his father sis years after my father passed away. Tom was always the...Read More »
41 of 54 | Posted by: Don Holtzman - Mechanicsburg, PA

“Sorry to hear about the tragic event in Charleston and the death of Tom. I supervised him when he was a Psychology Resident at the University of...Read More »
42 of 54 | Posted by: William Johnson - Folly Beach, SC

“Suzanne,As we welcome you into the College of Charleston family, my heart aches with grief for your tragic loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you...Read More »
43 of 54 | Posted by: Peggy Boykin - Charleston

“May the family have a peace that surpasses all understanding. Hearts go out to you all during this challenging time.You all are loved and not alone...Read More »
44 of 54 | Posted by: Zoe Gooden - Pinson, AL - Student

“I am so sad to hear this news. When we were kids, it was always fun to get together with Tom and his brothers. My heart goes out to his brothers...Read More »
45 of 54 | Posted by: Don Balya - Bridgeville, PA

“So sorry for your loss.I went to school with Tom and remember him as a good man. Ok ”
46 of 54 | Posted by: Jeffrey Stinebiser - Church Hill, MD

“It is with a heavy heart that I send you this note of condolence in this tragic moment. Tom was a terrific guy, and I knew him through my...Read More »
47 of 54 | Posted by: Chuck Ahearn - Naples, FL

“Tom's legacy will live on. Praying for comfort and peace. ”
48 of 54 | Posted by: LaShell Cameron - Adamsville, AL

“As one of eight deans at the University of Delaware where Tom once served, my most sincere condolences go out to his family and friends. We are all...Read More »
49 of 54 | Posted by: mark rieger rieger - Newark, DE

“Provost DiLorenzo was a great boss and wonderful man. I had the opportunity to work with him on many projects and enjoyed the time we spent together....Read More »
50 of 54 | Posted by: Chad Bushy - Coworker

“My deepest sympathy to this family. Sorry such a tragedy had to happen to you. My prayers are with you. ”
51 of 54 | Posted by: Pat

“I am shocked and saddened to hear about Tom. My condolences to the DiLorenzo family. May he rest in peace. ”
52 of 54 | Posted by: Judy Lewis - Munhall, PA

“Tom was a wonderful man and I always enjoyed my interactions with him. Regardless of the topic or where each of us stood on an issue, he was always...Read More »
53 of 54 | Posted by: Darin King - Grand Forks, ND

“Kendall, Nathan, and Suzanne,Tom was truly an amazing man. For me, he was the best mentor I could ever have dreamed of. He had an enormous impact...Read More »
54 of 54 | Posted by: Mary Dozier - Newarrk, DE

Thomas Michael DiLorenzo, a lifelong learner, teacher, leader in higher education and lover of his family and life itself, died suddenly on Friday, July 17, 2020, in Charleston, SC. He was 63 years old.

Born in Greensburg, PA to Emil and Mary Jane DiLorenzo, Tom was the valedictorian of his high school class in Jeanette, PA and went on to the University of Pittsburgh, where he graduated cum laude with degrees in economics and psychology. He earned his doctorate of philosophy degree in clinical psychology from West Virginia University.

Upon completion of his graduate degree, Tom joined the faculty at the University of Missouri, where he rose through the ranks to become chair of the Department of Psychology. In 1999, he was named Dean of the College of Arts and Sciences at the University of Delaware, where he met his future wife, Suzanne Austin. Tom moved to Birmingham, AL in 2010, when he was named Dean of the College of Arts and Sciences at the University of Alabama at Birmingham. Suzanne arrived later and served UAB as senior vice provost. Tom later was named provost and senior vice president at the University of North Dakota, a position from which he retired in June 2020. Tom and Suzanne moved to Charleston on July 1st.

Tom was known in higher education circles for his servant leadership with an eye toward the bedrock principles of shared governance with faculty, staff and students. He was a true advocate for and a steward of the institutions he served. He provided clear-eyed guidance for his universities in a multitude of issues, including affordability, access, state funding, diversity and inclusion, free expression of speech on campus and economic development at the local, state and national levels.

Tom is survived by his wife, Suzanne; her daughter, Lilla Alchon (Alex Dickson), both of Washington, DC; his daughter, Kendall Wagner, (Alex Wagner), and grandchildren, Keegan and Harper, all of Newark, DE; and son, Nathan DiLorenzo (Angela Tomaso), and grandchild, Brooklyn, all of Des Plaines, IL.

He also is survived by brothers John of Greensburg; Mark of Hermitage, PA and stepbrothers, Rick and Don Holtzman of Atlanta, GA and Mechanicsburg, PA respectively.

Tom loved cooking and traveling. Tom's family asks that in lieu of flowers, memorial contributions be made to the College of Charleston Cougar Pantry,, the UAB Blazer Kitchen,, and the UND Food for Thought Pantry